By Sheiresa Ngo
Anger is a normal part of daily life. We all get angry every now and then. It’s how you manage this emotion that can make or break your relationship. Consequently, it’s important to know what is and isn’t appropriate when it comes to relating to an angry partner. The good news is, anger management is possible.
Carrie Askin, a therapist and co-director at treatment center Menergy, said people who struggle with anger usually have difficulty dealing with emotions that make them feel vulnerable. As a result, these softer emotions are expressed aggressively. “Anger is rarely just anger; it’s usually secondary to vulnerable feelings such as disappointment, shame, anxiety, and sadness. Most of us would much rather feel powerful than helpless or anxious. People who act out in anger can change. The first step is taking responsibility for the behavior,” Askin told The Cheat Sheet.